By: Devon Preston
It’s no shock that every human on this planet has his or her ideal physical type. Even blind people have a way of know what their body yearns for without even needing to see the person standing in front of them. Some like it short, others like big girls, a fair few many even have a thing for tattoos. And we’re told it’s completely natural to like what we like. Having a type can be seen as a product of a simple biology, where one mate looks for traits in a mate that indicate good health, only now it is our brains way of saying that person is someone I want to get to know better. And while these feelings are all and good, the way someone looks shouldn’t be the end factor in whether or not we fall in love with them. Interests, personality, goals, and their past outweighs looks hands down on paper, yet when it comes down to facts it is someone’s appearance that often makes the first impression. Yet could this aspect of our seemingly ‘unconscious’ biology be holding us back?
You’ll never see the Victoria’s Secret model with the Dungeons and Dragons player that is unless the Dungeons and Drags guy looks like Ryan Gosling. No matter how much someone will tell you that your looks don’t matter, they are the first things that someone notices about you and they can immediately write you off in their minds. Why else does it make sense that so many popular ‘pretty’ girls are so mean? It’s because no one in their lives has ever told them no and their looks have put them in good graces? This by no means implies that ever pretty girl is mean and there certainly are some less attractive girls with ugly attitudes, but let’s play it by ‘stereotypes’ for a second. As animals our most reactionary sense is sight and it can be said as evolved human beings that our most powerfully uncontrollable emotion is love, thus it is easy to evaluate that the immediate visual attraction we feel for another human is much more deep rooted than the skip of a heartbeat.
So if we are visual creatures with inherent ambitions of reproduction on the brain, how does finding a love partner come in to play? Is it possible for a person who swears that they only date larger woman to fall for a hundred pound girl even if on the inside they are entirely compatible? Of course cases like this occur every day with personality ruling over looks (not including those who marry for money), but it’s hard to see an immediate reversal of what our brain finds attractive at first glance. Can we truly get past looks in order to find love?